Say what?????

Salaam to all of you out there...

I have some serious questions concerning language...haha..No, not with Rajh.  However him and I are still working out our own Nepal/Hindi/American version of a language... :)  My issues is with Arabic.  I understand the need for all of us to learn it.  It's the language of our Prophet(pbuh) and we need to learn to read the Quran and recite our prayers correctly.  My problem lies with the intermittent use of some Arabic words into our daily conversations with people who are of an English speaking background.  Just because I am a Muslim doesn't mean that all of a sudden I should "switch up" my English words with Arabic, does it?  I still receive email messages from some crazy polygyny group that I quit a while back...too extreme, and when I read them I just laugh.  They, and I, are Americans.  Why cant I call him, "my husband"?  Why does it have to be"zawj" or what ever term they use?  They will do all these "greetings" in Arabic...then say.."so and so is looking for "akhi", this is her "wakil" information.  Then they will throw in a little American English and say, "you can hit her up on facebook"... LOOOOL  When us as Americans take our Shahada, does it come with an obligatory duty to speak broken Arabic in our daily conversations?  I know a few reverts here in my country that do the same.  I greet with "Salaam Alaikmu, how are you".  Mind you, they are as English as English gets..LOL  They follow up with "Alaikum Salaam, jhak bar, schlolich zaina....hdlakfldjwoeijldkfjlsdjflejfoieldkjfoielj..."(During this time I just nod my head)

When I am speaking to an American Muslim or European Muslim, do I have to pretend we are Arabic?  What is so wrong with speaking English?  I struggle thru this language on a DAILY basis.  I would love to just be free to speak my own language with others that speak it as well.

So to all of my English speaking Muslim friends out there, "Salaam Alaikum!  How are you all doing today?  May Allah bless you and all of your family."

Intentions

Salaam Everyone...

My husband had good advice for me the other day.  That we shouldn't value our "worth" on what other people think or say.  Even if their actions are wrong and we feel it in our "gut" to be "right setters and truth tellers".  It's best for us to let it go and not let it eat away at us.  Our intention is what counts.  If you feel you have done nothing wrong and your intention was pure, then why dwell on it?  Why give a second thought to what others say or think?  In the end you have to look at it this way, "Does your life depend on what has been said or done to you?"  "Will you stop breathing because of it?"  If not, then Khalas!  People will be people, they will perceive your thoughts or actions their own way.  Don't let them define who you are.  You are a good person no matter what.

He is so smart.

New post comming and random thoughts..

Salaam Everyone.....

I am in the process of preparing a Kick Ass blog post...I have gotten A TON of comments in regards to my husband and his wish to practice polygyny.  Even though it is permissible in Islam, some people still like to "hate"....  Most of my posts have been about my feelings in this process and my frustration with the situation.  I am compiling some question for him to answer.  These questions are the comments some of you have left, that's where I am getting my ideas.  So, stay tuned.  Inshallah, it will be a good post.

On another note, how many out there (women) find that you are constantly defending your husband to other people?  I have an AMAZING man but yet some women who visit my blog are constantly slamming his decision.  How do you deal with it?

Ohh,  did I mention how crazy in love with this man I am???  I am soooo glad his last few potential wives didn't work out.  They weren't good enough for him and ALLAH knows it... Mashllah!  All in good time the right one will come along.....Inshallah, then this crazy search will be over!  THANK GOD!  I think he and I will both need physciatric help before its done..  Him making me crazy with the "click click" of the computer keys and me and my "freak out" sessions...hahah  Honestly, his "click click's" have been getting less and less which in turn makes my freak outs go away as well.  Haha.  All the girls he has come across so far are either gold diggers, immature or just unwilling to enter polygyny.  **Big sigh**  I pray that what ever happens, she will be good for our family and not some young girl who is clueless or some old lady set in her ways...LOOOL  Or, I could hit the jack pot and have him too myself!!!  ( a girl can wish cant she??)

Changing it up a bit

Salaam....

Real quick post....I changed a few things on my post.  New Year, new me... :)  I have a new out look on life and it's time to focus on the positive and less negative.

In order to move forward you cant continue to look back....

Masalaama!!

Rajh's Office Story

Salaam to you all out there...

I thought that before I posted my latest Tales of The Office boy post, I would post a funny incident in which the tables were turned... Now Rajh has his own story to tell....about me.  The clueless American Lady who is supposed to be smart, educated, yada...yada..yada..LOOOl

So, I get to work last week after reading all of your wonderful comments on how to speak his language.  Mashallah!  Such wonderful comments.  And I want to thank each and everyone of you for the time you took to give me such advice......but I am afraid to say, you all wasted your time.  :(  Keep reading...

I took the time to learn some words to speak to him.  I was prepared that day when I proceeded to make a complete fool out of myself..lol

I started with the basics..Hi.  (mind you, I am thinking I am going to impress him with my vast knowledge).  Then I ask for water.  He is just staring at me.  He gets it, after looking at me like I have lost my mind,  and proceeds to bring water.  I thank him, in "his" language.  I have this up on my computer and I am flipping thru all of your comments as I am dazzling the office with my new found language of Hindi/Urdu...whatever the heck it was that was spilling from my mouth.  Our CEO/MD comes to work at this point and I am like...YEAH! Now I get to ask Rajh if the "boss is here"...As I struggle to say it perfect, he begins to laugh.  An uncontrollable laugh from the bottom of his gut, you know what I am talking about.  When the face turns red and its hard to breath?  Yeah, that kind of a laugh.    I am confused.  What is so funny?  Wait for it...............

Me:  What is so funny?
Rajh: That is Hindi
Me: Yes.. I learned it to talk to you.
Rajh:  I am from Nepal

Enough said......



My husband was right  I am the girl from the "American Bubble"