I am in the process of preparing a Kick Ass blog post...I have gotten A TON of comments in regards to my husband and his wish to practice polygyny. Even though it is permissible in Islam, some people still like to "hate".... Most of my posts have been about my feelings in this process and my frustration with the situation. I am compiling some question for him to answer. These questions are the comments some of you have left, that's where I am getting my ideas. So, stay tuned. Inshallah, it will be a good post.
On another note, how many out there (women) find that you are constantly defending your husband to other people? I have an AMAZING man but yet some women who visit my blog are constantly slamming his decision. How do you deal with it?
Ohh, did I mention how crazy in love with this man I am??? I am soooo glad his last few potential wives didn't work out. They weren't good enough for him and ALLAH knows it... Mashllah! All in good time the right one will come along.....Inshallah, then this crazy search will be over! THANK GOD! I think he and I will both need physciatric help before its done.. Him making me crazy with the "click click" of the computer keys and me and my "freak out" sessions...hahah Honestly, his "click click's" have been getting less and less which in turn makes my freak outs go away as well. Haha. All the girls he has come across so far are either gold diggers, immature or just unwilling to enter polygyny. **Big sigh** I pray that what ever happens, she will be good for our family and not some young girl who is clueless or some old lady set in her ways...LOOOL Or, I could hit the jack pot and have him too myself!!! ( a girl can wish cant she??)
Salaams, yes I do feel like I defend Hassan alot sometimes. And he is truly a sweet guy, and I do feel blessed most days to have him by my side. If he wasnt a good catch then nobody else would want him lol. Yes we all would prefer to be the one and only, but for some reason some husbands like to exercise their rights on this matter. If done correctly there can be some benefits to it and all 3 parties can be happy. I think the key in him choosing is a mature sister that can handle the aspects of sharing. One not only mature in age but deen. I would say perhaps at least 26 years old. From your posts your husband seems to be a real sweet heart. Keep hope alive , if this is something you will be tested with in your marriage, may Allah bring someone to you who is nice and kind and respectful to your family and not some gold digger. Yall need to just get a sister from a 3rd world country who is lucky to be alive rflmao she will appreciate all he has to offer and not try to be greedy and money hungry lol.
ReplyDeleteCan't wait to read the kick ass post you are working on. :-) I think asking him all of the questions that have come up is a really good idea. Good luck!
ReplyDeleteAs the new 2011 rings in I too am positive in process... Here is a phrase that I saw recently:
ReplyDelete"Change your thoughts and you change your world"
How true this is...Positive 2011 here I come
As salaamu alaykum wa Rahmat Allah.
ReplyDeleteA word of warning: don't ask questions that you cannot handle the answer to. Be careful and if you find it going the wrong way, stop. Sometimes these kinds of questions put men in a bad mood. I know.
Anyway, no pressure...when you're ready to post, we are right here ready to read, LOL!
Much love,
Mai
That's what I always hope for IF it does happen, someone who is mature and can handle the situation. My biggest fear is someone coming in with the intention to try to get me booted out! But M and I have discussed this...
ReplyDeleteMashaAllah tabarakAllah your positive attitude will certainly make things easier, that's for sure :) Would you want to meet a prospective wife first (before or after he made a decision)? My husband says he would want me to and also to be in on making a decision...and I'm not sure I would want to.
Waiting for your kicking post...