I had to breath a bit after reading some blogs this morning that combine misyar and mut'ah marriage as being the same thing only under a different name.
Brothers and Sisters....please!!! THEY ARE NOT THE SAME THING... Some people equate it to a form of prostitution. Hmmmm.. I think thats a stretch.
Mut'ah is a temporary marriage that can be decided in the contract to be lasting from a few hours, days to indefinite. No where in a Misyar contract does it state an end. The difference between a "normal" Islamic marriage and a Misyar is the woman forgoing of some of her rights. Such as..... time division, financial support or anything along those lines. If a woman needs to take care of her family (parents) and can not leave them but still wants the love and support of a husband, she can marry him and "forgo" her right to housing. You may say its wrong but you can not deny that all conditions are met for an Islamic Marriage. Mahr, witnesses, wali and announcement
.In a Mut'ah marriage, which had its very own marriage tent at the Shia protests here in Bahrain that came equipped with their very own Mut'ah marriage guy, they can decide on how long they would like to be married, how much money they want and how long it will take them to be "satisfied" hence deciding the length of the marriage contract. I am not sure if all Mut'ah marriage contracts are like this but this is what they had going on at the Pearl Roundabout.
My husband is married to a wonderful girl who, unfortunately, is unable to come to our country at this time. They signed the contract knowing he would not have to provide her equal time or housing at this time. When she is able to come, inshallah in a few months, then that will be null and void. She had her walli, mahr and witnesses as well as announcement. Please dont tell me this in not a valid marriage or that it is in the same category as a Mut'ah!! Give me some proof is this is what you claim.
Mut'ah =temporary as defined in the contract
Misya= voluntarily giving up certain rights such as time allowance or money. NO WHERE IN THE CONTRACT IS THERE AN END DATE!!!!
I understand that in ideal situations this would not have to happen. The husband should be responsible for everything for his wife...but, I believe, that if is suits the situation and all conditions of the marriage are met, who are we to say it is wrong, prostitution, or a Mut'ah???! What about a "traditional contract" and the husband is away on business 9 months out of the year? Does that make their contract invalid? Do you claim that this is a prostitution marriage?
Opinions are wonderful, you, me and everyone are entitled to them...Mashallah! But proof is better than opinions.
I know I have touched base on this issue before but this morning it is really irritating me and I just had to let it out. loool