The journey through life sometimes takes a differnt road than we have planned, but this is my journey and my trials along the way. I am not perfect, but I try to live my life and not sweat the small stuff.
Friday, March 4, 2011
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Just shoot me and get it over with................
I know its not rocket science, but maybe he doesn't understand your hurting so much, maybe you ought to let him know that this is going to take a while to adjust with and maybe he could not discuss it so much. Also may he could avoid chatting with her in your presence?
If he's here with you couldn't you both concentrate on your marriage not his other one too? I like the idea of going it slow and observing the second wife for a yr (for your self) maybe you could have him read up Mai's blog...
Also make a list of things you plan to do for your deen and yourself during your free time once back, for example like books to read, sisters to meet, and if your the artsy type, plan projects you want to do and gather the materials to take back. Make the most of your time with your mother.
Try making your time constructive, everytime shaitan whispers remind your self it it shaitan and make dua and then get busy to try a moment of anger and pain into a moment of reward (must remind myself of this too)
Hang in their sister i will be needing yor strenght when my husband marries again too.
Some day, when my husband marries his fiancé, I will have to face the same situation, so my heart knows how you can be feeling right now.May ALLAH SWT help you cope with polyginy and may He make it easy for you.Ameen. Lot of love from your French sister
Thank you everyone and thanks for your dua Umm Shuhadaa....Alhamdulilliah..I am doing better. Inshallah, Allah will give me the strength I need to carry on. My husband has been wonderful lately and I pray I can make it thru this difficult time in my life....
Life is too short to be hateful. Just because you disagree with something, doesn't make it wrong. I welcome your comments but please refrain from being hateful. :)
I'm sorry to hear Dat sweetie. I hope u will b strong n I know it won't b easy.
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What happened?
ReplyDeleteAs-salaama Alaikum Sister
ReplyDeleteI know its not rocket science, but maybe he doesn't understand your hurting so much, maybe you ought to let him know that this is going to take a while to adjust with and maybe he could not discuss it so much. Also may he could avoid chatting with her in your presence?
If he's here with you couldn't you both concentrate on your marriage not his other one too? I like the idea of going it slow and observing the second wife for a yr (for your self) maybe you could have him read up Mai's blog...
Also make a list of things you plan to do for your deen and yourself during your free time once back, for example like books to read, sisters to meet, and if your the artsy type, plan projects you want to do and gather the materials to take back. Make the most of your time with your mother.
Try making your time constructive, everytime shaitan whispers remind your self it it shaitan and make dua and then get busy to try a moment of anger and pain into a moment of reward (must remind myself of this too)
Hang in their sister i will be needing yor strenght when my husband marries again too.
:( Im here if you need me.
ReplyDeleteAssalamu Aleykum dear sister,
ReplyDeleteSome day, when my husband marries his fiancé, I will have to face the same situation, so my heart knows how you can be feeling right now.May ALLAH SWT help you cope with polyginy and may He make it easy for you.Ameen.
Lot of love from your French sister
As-salaam alaikum Sister Daisy,
ReplyDeleteMaking dua for you at this end.
Thank you everyone and thanks for your dua Umm Shuhadaa....Alhamdulilliah..I am doing better. Inshallah, Allah will give me the strength I need to carry on. My husband has been wonderful lately and I pray I can make it thru this difficult time in my life....
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