Monday, January 10, 2011
I got so many wonderful feedback comments that I thought I would just write a "Thank You" post to all of you.
Yes, this is hard.. I wont lie. But it is what it is. Life is written for us before we were born. I have faith in ALLAH (swt) that he wont let me down. So I don't fear the unknown, I am just nervous.
There was a particular comment about polygyny being "anti-Islamic" I don't mean to single you out habibti but you must know, that you are so far from the truth. I have studied Islam now for almost 10 years, so no, I didn't just open the Quran and say "I believe". Although we should. The Quran is the word of God Almighty. If you disbelieve in something in there, how can you say you truly believe? There are many reasons a man would marry a second, third or even fourth wife but whatever the reason, he must remain fair.
God said he left no greater fitnah on earth for men than women. If a man can not lower his gaze and keep himself from sin, than the choice to marry again is there for him. Our ultimate goal in heaven so why make something halal into haram?
No two human beings are alike. We are all made different but we have one thing in common......FREE WILL. If you are not ok with polygyny, you DON'T HAVE TO DO IT. You have the choice to not be in, as do I. If you say, "Heck no, not for me" No one is going to fault you for it. I know I wont What every "anti-polygyny" person has got to start to realize is this.....Just because you don't agree with it, doesn't make it wrong.
I love my husband. More than words can express. I want to help him be a better person. Do I agree with the non halal way some men AND WOMEN go about meeting for marriage??? NO, I do not agree with it. Late night computer chit chats, sms messages, phone calls....All of this leads to fitnah...May God forgive us all. I do understand, that it is not only the fault of the man, but the weakness in the women as well. Far too often the men get blamed for all of this. If the women didn't pick up the phone or say to the man, here is my wali...call him, we wouldn't have this issue. Inshallah, we will all be guided the right way.
My idea of a good "meet and greet" period is introduction, a few conversations, meeting with the prospective bride and her family, engagement, marriage.. This should not take more than a month. There is no dating in Islam!! I think this is what I have the biggest issue with.
My heart is pure. My love is unconditional. My love for ALLAH is endless. I want to leave this life with nothing but halal goodness in my life. I intend to do so.
Thank you and I love you all for the sake of ALLAH..... :)