Friday, December 31, 2010
So..I pose a question to all my convert friends and born Muslims alike that are living in polygyny. Do you feel like a doormat?
**When polygyny was brought up to you, did you like it right away or did it take time to "grow on you"?
**Why do some Muslim women have such an issue with polygyny and show their dislike by lashing out at their Muslim Sisters instead of helping them and loving them for the sake of ALLAH(swt)?
**I guess my question is, why does it seem we spend so much time defending our feelings? Are we not allowed to have good days and bad days but yet still love our husband and our Religion?
**I am really interested in comments from you that are living successful polygyny lifestyles. Are you married to an Arab? Some people think that just because we are married to an Arab they somehow "brainwashed us".
I am an intelligent person with education and a whole lot of life experience but yet on the topic of polygyny, somehow people tend to think I am ignorant and naive.
**How did you all deal with this? Do you think maybe some of these born Muslim sisters feel threatened?
Also, to my fellow converts, did you convert before or after you married? (I converted almost a year before I met my husband, fyi)
On another note, it's a beautiful day! Alhamdullilah! The sun is shining, I have a wonderful husband and family. I went to the Dr the other day and all my "female parts" are working and no reason I shouldn't get pregnant. ALHAMDULLILAH!! I am going back in a few days to check on the progress this month and have an appt in a couple weeks for blood work to move this baby making along....
I pray you all have an Awesome day and I look forward to your comments.....